should be one of the most significant services in a
person's life. For believers, the wedding is a time to
commit the family to God. As a pastor, you must do all
you can to make the wedding service beautiful and
meaningful for the couple and their friends and
families. Here are a few principles.
way by preaching on God's ideal for marriage.
Nowhere else in society will your children and youth
encounter the biblical standard for dating, marriage,
and the Christian home. Preach the truth consistently
and help prepare your people for marriage.
Set up a
time for counseling before the wedding. Consider such
matters as the commitment and responsibility of
marriage, finances, planning for children, and the
important relationship of the home and church.
Discuss choices of music with the couple. The wedding is
a Christian service, and music should be appropriate.
Carefully plan the wedding ceremony and carry it out
with joy and dignity.
As pastor, take the lead in
this celebration of God's establishment of the home.
On the day of the wedding, the wedding party should
arrive at least one hour before the ceremony is to
begin. Pictures will be made, clothing changed, and many
last-minute details cared for. The organist or pianist
should begin playing 15 minutes before the ceremony
The parents of the groom will be seated by an
usher about two minutes prior to the wedding time. They
are seated in the first pew at the right facing the
The mother of the bride will be seated about
one minute prior to the wedding time. She will be seated
in the first pew at the left.
If candle lighters
are used, they may now light the candles.
A song may
he sung prior to the processional.
wedding party may now enter to appropriate music.
The following order is traditional.
minister enters from the right side when facing the
The groom and the groomsmen follow the
Bridesmaids enter the aisle singly. Each
bridesmaid should wait until the other bridesmaid is
halfway down the aisle before beginning.
The maid of
honor will enter, followed by the flower girl and ring
bearer (if any).
The bride and her father (or
whoever gives her away) will enter, he walking on her
right. When they approach the altar, the father will
stand between the bride and groom for a brief time. When
the minister asks, "Who gives this woman to be the wife
of this man?" the father will answer, "Her mother and
I," before taking his seat beside the mother of the
The ceremony should include the
Opening comments and prayer about
Promises the couple make to each other.
These are usually stated by the minister and answered
with "I do."
A statement by the minister about the
significance of the rings and a ring vow.
pronouncement by the minister that the couple is now
husband and wife.
A prayer for the couple and their